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Throw away your clothes

Okay, I know. Shocking title. You are probably thinking ” Pfft! What is she talking about? We love our clothes. We are not going to downsize!”. Let me say really quick, this is not that kind of a post. Difficult times call for a more up – front approach; So, today, we are speaking truths, kicking our insecurities to the curb and showering ourselves with a freeing happiness. In a way, we are throwing away the clothes or layers, for a better word, and getting deeper  in the concept of acceptance and the psychological need of belongingness. (Right in the feels, much?)

Someone reminded me today that no matter who we think we are, there is more to it than what the eye can see. Maybe, even more than we realize. But, we can only reach our full potential, if we embrace the person we have become. On my last post Own your body, I shared with you a small exercise that you could do in front of your mirror and would be able to help with seeing yourself as the majestic being you are. Yes, you are! Stop arguing! I am overwhelmed and so grateful for all the response I have gotten. This is the true testament of the reason I am writing and why I chose this particular subject. It is a great journey so far and I cannot wait to see where it is headed. Most importantly, I am at my happy place, because it has even the slightest (good) impact in your lives. It’s always baby steps, but look at how grant you feel!

Some might be wondering, what difference does it make? It’s just a post. Who is going to pay attention to it and why? Surprise! Like everything else we have to start from somewhere. It is a work in progress and these things take, unfortunately, time. There is a certain mindset that has hurt the way we perceive our images. Take social media, for instance. Even though it is a place where your voice could be heard in the variety of virtual walls, it has sculpted our opinions into thinking if we are unique, we have to be some sort of an outcast.  Why? What is the psychological need for such purpose? We have created those “stands” and labels and decided to place ourselves in them. Embrace yourself. Psychological approach is coming! No, not winter; it’s finally spring thank God, but fellow nerd, thank you for laughing.

It is normal to feel the need to psychologically categorize yourself. The craving for belonging and acceptance by somebody you can relate to, is very common, as well. Abraham Maslow, actually, has the hierarchy of needs (in a pyramid) and it specifically names it as part of the human motivation. Love and the need to be a part of something (a group, a team etc) fall under the category of social needs. Since, humans are sociable beings, you could easily understand its importance. The following picture of the pyramid is from this link, that will take to an article, if you desire to extend your knowledge on the matter. A little Maslow never hurt anyone.

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But, what happens when you fall out of place? Let alone when you are getting hurt by the “clique” you thought you belonged to? What happens to the girl that got acne and now her friends are making comments behind her back? Or maybe to the boy that got a few extra pounds and doesn’t feel like himself anymore? Why is it scary to feel that your peers are not going to accept who you are or have become?

It all starts with accepting yourself. Realizing that you are gorgeous inside and out, no matter what. The goal is self actualization. Reaching the point, where you are not just content on how you look or feel, but you are proud. That is when no one’s opinion will cause you grief. Because being yourself is fantastic. Aspire to be free of such closed minds and expand your understanding. You have a purpose in life. Follow it. Wear your scars gracefully, your body and soul fashionably and throw away the clothes. Throw your layers of pain and sadness away. Destroy your fear of looking at yourself in the mirror. Know that you are wrong, if you believe no one sees your beauty; inner and outside. Last, but not least; Change your attitude. Be happy with your image and find what makes you truly peaceful. It might be a long walk, full of rocky roads; but when you get to the top of the mountain you will see the sunshine over the horizon, darling.

I can only hope to become an advocate for a positive body image lifestyle and fashion, in life. Maybe, this is my purpose. Through everything that has happened to me, I see it as a way of accepting me, myself and I. Who else better to love you, if not your own being?!

Stay fashionable,
Kallia Manika,

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56 thoughts on “Throw away your clothes

  1. Having reached the wise stage in my life (old) I can tell you that not accepting yourself results only in hurting yourself. Your weight and your looks will change many,many times. None of those things will be the things that make you happy. Finding belonging is hard! When you are living authentic the right people will gravitate to you.

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    • Thank you very much, Sarah! I am so glad you liked it!!! When I hear comments like yours, they remind me of the reason I am doing this and to always push forward! Have a wonderful day and always remember you are beautiful inside and out!!

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  2. Ah, I remember studying the “hierarchy of needs pyramid” in college. Accepting myself is one of the hardest things to do because I always want to improve. As well as learning my purpose in life. Learning to be content is what I’m currently working on. Very deep, great post!

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  3. I remember the song of late Whitney Houston (which is sang before by George Benson) Greatest love of all, the lyrics says, “Learning to love yourself it is the greatest love all” I guess that’s say it all. Lovely post! Inspiring and encouraging at the same time.

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  4. I fee like in this day and age people find it so hard to accept themselves and are constantly comparing themselves to others. There is some great advice here and such a lovely written post.

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  5. Wow look at all these engaged readers! You are providing support people struggling with body image.
    Congratulations on being Danny Ray’s featured blogger. I was his featured blogger too! Maybe you can check out my blog if you need a blogging tip or two. That’s what I write about.
    Janice

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  6. Yes a lot of people hide themself behind cool, sexy or whatever they want to show. But once we are naked we are feel so vulnerable. When we have no clothes to hide behind we show the world that this is real me, this is who I am…can get quite scary! But at the end, its just body. Its not who we are…who we really are is inside of you.

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  7. Very well written.. Those inspiring words hit me. Everyone should learn to embrace his/her true self and also learn to see what’s more inside you. Maybe you think that you have done enough, but sometimes we just need motivation and the love so we could also share what’s deep inside us.

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  8. Throw away clothes — that’s a creative way of saying let go of your insecurities. Just last night I was pondering about acceptance — whether in the workplace or among our friends — and realized that the best approach is really to just don’t care since we cannot please everybody, no matter how hard we try or no matter how we adjust to them.

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  9. I agree with the Maslow theory of ‘needs’ and like you said we do have a psychological mechanism of categorizing ourselves. I often struggle with accepting who I am as a person but every day I try a little harder to love the body I have been born in x

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  10. I’ve never thought of breaking down what motivates me into different categories but it makes sense! I think everything is connected so when one category is threatened, it’s easy to feel like you’re off balance. I’ve had so many days where I didn’t hit a goal I set for myself, which made me feel less confident in comparison to someone else who did.

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