I take pride in making several efforts in becoming a body positivity advocate and I spend most of my time helping individuals find their voice about their bodies, through my blog. Empowering them, encouraging them and aiding them on the journey of achieving body positivity, since I am one of you. I am in the middle of this. I try to be candid about my struggles, my life and points of views, while keeping an open mind of course. Although, understanding that it’s a process and there are some setbacks is part of the game, as well.
No matter where you are on your journey, there are those moments that you start doubting yourself. During those times there are some self help points you could start incorporating in your every day life, such as self compliments- exercises in front of a mirror. I know a lot of people that have seeked professional help and that has helped them tremendously. But one thing that I have encountered quite a lot (and I have done it in the past) is accept some facts for my body that are outrageous.
I am in the middle of some personal time off and I cannot shake a phrase that I heard the other day. This lovely, young lady was talking to her friend and unwillingly I overheard her casually mention “It’s so hot out, I want to get in the pool, but I shouldn’t go out with a swimsuit on. Who would wanna see all that”. Now, I wanted to go to her and ask her why. Why would you put yourself down? You’re beautiful, I don’t know you and I can tell you have been brainwashed into thinking those ideas. Then I came to thinking that so many times, in several occasions, I was that girl. I was shocked how close to home that feeling felt. I have hidden from cameras, I wouldn’t go to busy beaches or pools and hated swimsuit season. I’ve been there. Heck, at days I’m still there. It hurts. It can be soul crushing and messes with your whole life.
I never went to her. I never asked all of those questions. I understood her conversation was private and I steered away. But her words burned in my mind. They stayed there and kept replaying. She believed it and she thought that that was her reality. Because I couldn’t tell her, I decided to say it publicly and if you happen to have said those words and stop by my blog, please know that we all have been there.
Closing, if I could say something to you, now that we are all full on summer mode is I know it sucks. I know disliking your body feels horrible and swimsuits or revealing more skin makes you feel being out on blast. You see yourself and don’t like your reflection on the mirror. But if you continue down that path, it only gets darker. If you allow the world’s standards guide you and end up accepting them, then you will always be on the same self loathing situation. So, if you like a swimsuit and it’s a two piece get it. Don’t focus on the absurdity of “plus size means I have to wear one piece or no swimsuit at all”. “I should probably cover myself”. “No, I’m sorry I don’t think I will follow you to the pool guys, but you go have fun”. Don’t let the world and your mind bully you. Wear your crown and own your body. You are beautiful and it’s time for you to own it. Be proud of all of you and perhaps get a tan without holding the judgment of the world on your shoulders.